All About Me Book for School

All About Me Book Sample Text –

This has helped us so much, both when Lila was non-verbal and now that she is semi-verbal. I never want the teacher to go into the situation blind, and I want to give them both the best opportunity possible to start the year with positive interactions. I left some of our information in there just so you can get an idea of what kinds of things may go under that header. I hope it helps some of you – lots of love to you and your beautiful families!

All About Me

My name is:

My friends and family call me:

This is who lives with me at home:

These are the therapists and doctors who support me and my family and how to reach them:

Therapist:

Speech Path/Behavioral Therapy:

Pediatrician:

Neuropsychologist:

These are other family, friends, and supports that are special to my family and when my family or I usually see them:

These are a few of the things my family and I have learned:

• An understanding of the nature of Autism Spectrum Disorder
• Numerous treatment approaches and strategies like: visual supports (picture exchange, visual schedules, social stories and video modeling)
• Floor-time therapy techniques
• Basic child-led ABA information (discrete trials, handling reinforcers, functional behavior analysis for challenging behaviors)
• Positive discipline techniques
• Advocacy and support skills
• Sensory processing information (sensory diets, food chaining)

Here are some things that I REALLY enjoy right now:

Here is how you know I’m happy:

Here are some things that are challenging for me to do:

Here are some things that I wish didn’t ever have to happen because I dislike them so much:

Here’s what I do when I’m not happy about something:

These are the ways in which I communicate to others what I’m thinking, feeling, wanting, and don’t want:

These are things I’m working on right now at home:

These are the ways I get around my environment and how I move and use my fingers and hands:

These are the ways I’m able to eat, and what foods I like and don’t like:

This is my experience being around other children my age and what usually happens in those settings:

This is how people who care for me let me know what behavior is expected of me and how they handle it when I’m misbehaving:

This is how I best calm down when I am upset:

These are some things that my family would like to see me learn over the next year:

• Gross motor:
• Fine motor: Adaptive:
• Communication:
• Personal-Social:
• Cognitive:
• Sensory Areas:

This is what you can expect from my family at home when working with me:

This is what my family would like as far as communication about what I am learning and how I am doing at school:

Mommy:

Daddy:

These are my family’s hopes and dreams for me:

And I always finish with a picture or picture collage of some sort:

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“Ah-Yay!”

I don’t usually post about any of the challenges, but wanted to offer a little glimpse into the autism family life for those who don’t experience it: Bath time has become extremely difficult. Lila hears the water running, and her anxiety goes from zero to one hundred (within a split second) – she screams and appears completely overwhelmed.

I want more than anything to be able to ask her WHY she is so upset – what’s wrong, baby? So I can change it. So I can ask – but she can’t tell me.

This week while mid-meltdown, she grabbed my face in her little hands, looked me in the eyes, and repeated slowly and deliberately. “Ah-Yay”……”Ah-Yay!”…… Momma, “AH-YAY!!!” I have absolutely no idea.

Maybe it’s what is making bath so challenging for her, and she’s desperately trying to tell me. “Ah-Yay!”. I started to cry. I always tell her I’m so sorry – that one day we will get there – I promise. It’s the tiny moments like that that absolutely break my heart. As always we keep working – we’re warriors, all three of us

“Mah, Goots, Yets Go!”

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That’s it folks. It may not look like much to an outsider but it was incredible.
The longest verbal string I’ve ever heard from her. The good Lord knows that neither patience nor manners are her strong suit – she said “Mah, Goots, Yets Go!”, which in Lila speak is “Milk, Juice, Let’s Go!” and it was spoken to me as I headed into the kitchen after she had requested a drink

The Biggest Mistake I’ve Made (So Far) as the Parent of an Autistic Child – and How I’m Working to Correct It!

At 15 months of age we started floor-time/play therapy at home with Lila, under the tutelage of her SoonerStart therapist – Janet. We worked every day for years on joint attention, fine motor skills, speech, turn-taking, picture cards, anything that involved effective communication between each other.

Well – I in particular ended up painting myself into a corner. Bill had much more common sense with this than I did lol Communication – that was the key, right? SHOW me what you want, and I’ll do it! Anything – give me anything and I’ll do it. Desperation lent itself to shelving any reservations I had about performing any of these requests.

Long story short I ended up here:

Oh, you want Mommy to….:

  • Get out 5 foods for you mini-buffet style, then blow bubbles over you while you play on the iPad?
  • Jump on the trampoline with you for hours and hours?
  • Give you a piggy-back ride 100 times in a row?

And I did. At the time – she was communicating, and I was too scared to put limitations on it at that point. So I did whatever she asked whenever she asked for the most part – unless it put her in some sort of danger – that was my ONLY caveat.

Looking back I see how ridiculous this must all look now – but I know where we came from. From a place with zero communication – I thought we had lost her. Therefore, I was beyond desperate. I also worried that she had/has no siblings or friends, and I think I was at least in some part trying to fill that void for her as well (but that’s my issue, not hers).

NOW is the time to set those limits. If we don’t do it while she’s young – all of us will be in a world of trouble, and I know that. She’s extremely intelligent – and her self-soothing skills have improved dramatically. Therefore, I’ve had to start saying “no” more often. Sometimes with a visual of when it will be available again, but sometimes (like while I’m working from home) – the answer is just “no”. She’s learning to be OK with that. I get her what I know she needs to calm down. It may take a while, but she can do it. That’s an important life skill, folks.

Limit-setting – that’s what we’re working on right now, and just flat-out saying “no” for things that are just completely unacceptable (ie physically trying to hurt the cats/puppy). I’ve always been good at the sensitive side of parenting – and working on plenty of floor-time/play therapies with Lila, so now I’M working on setting more limits for her, saying no, and having her take more responsibility around the house for things I know she can do. She throws her chips on the floor – she can pick them up. She doesn’t like it – but she knows better, and she can do it.

She’s a brilliant little girl – and I talk all the time about no limits for her just because she’s autistic, etc. I wouldn’t let a neuro-typical kid get away with this stuff, so I can’t let her get away with it either. So that’s where we’re at on that – we’re working on it, and as always we’ll get through it together!

New Play Therapy Games!

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New Play Therapy Games!:

I’ve learned to always work with what you have – and to think outside the box (thanks, Janet!).

I’ve been working on (but haven’t been able to successfully negotiate) a time where we sit in the playroom and play with actual toys. So like most things related to autism, I feel it’s more beneficial for both of us if we meet halfway. So I’ve chosen to use her affinity for the trampoline time as our new “therapy” time.

We both play on the trampoline a LOT – hours a day, every day. I always verbalize what we’re doing (i.e. saying “jump!” every time we jump together) because we’ve been doing floor-time/play therapy with her since she was 15 months old and that’s just how we roll.

Instead of just verbalizing what’s going on and singing, we worked on a couple of new things to force her just a little bit out of her comfort zone:

 

1.) “Do you want to…..”

Using WHAT we’re doing to work on the concept of “yes” or “no”. I say a few silly suggestions (which she thinks is funny), then go for the actual activity.

So I say, “Do you want to swim? Noooo (exaggerated and silly sounding – scripted that off one of her favorite apps and she loves it). Fly? Noooo…. Jump? –  YES! Let’s JUMP! So we’re basically just working on the play-time activities we’ve already been doing – then trying to work the concept of “yes” and “no” into the framework of that activity. She thinks this is pretty silly but she’s learning AND having a good time! (And isn’t that always the goal?)

 

2.) Verbal Choices….

We’re starting to push the boundary with the spoken word just a bit. We obviously know her better than anyone, so it’s easier to gauge what stretches her vs. what would cause her to get upset (which obviously ruins the play and defeats the purpose of play therapy).

So I say, “Do you want to (a) jump or (b) march?” Every time she comes to me I ask her to choose. Sometimes I mix it up with spin – but she knows each of these words well and I have heard her say them clearly enough that I can differentiate between the two. I think it’s important that I chose words/actions that she’s familiar with for this exercise – it allows me to work with her withOUT her anxiety level skyrocketing. She’s started (at times) just coming up to me now and saying “Jump!”, “March”, etc. with no prompting from me as a result!

We’re about to head into the holidays, TeamQuirky – please remember to throw conventionality out the window and do what works for you and YOUR family! Lots of love to all of you and your beautiful families.

 

Current Strengths:

  • Expressing herself verbally more and more (I’ve even heard two word phrases a few times like “Mommy, yay!”.
  • Able to identify feelings via picture cards (ie happy, sad, sick, etc).
  • Working off of “Potty time” and “Washing Hands” picture schedules.
  • Actually ate some noodles and diced tomatoes! Making in bulk for her this weekend – so excited!
  • We did Halloween our own way and she had a GREAT time.

 

Current Challenges:

  • She hasn’t been feeling well – and that causes her behavior to become much more challenging.
  • Bath time – regression there (again) – no clue why – building that routine back up using some of her current favorite songs from Sesame Street & Nursery Rhymes while we do bath.
  • The puppy (Millie!) – we found out that for the first time in her life, she likes dogs! But she does not really like the new puppy – the nipping and jumping on her, etc. Things will only get better as Millie continues to get bigger, we’ll get there!

 

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Late-Night Trampoline Fun

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It’s not your stereotypical perfect picture, but I love this so much. Lila took me by the hand to the back door last night around 6:50pm. The sun was almost set, she looked out the window and knew it was almost dark. I said “I think we can go out ONE last time, don’t you?”. She ran to the back door and we headed outside. We jumped on the trampoline until past dark. Her pure JOY in those moments is palpable, overwhelming, and one of my very favorite things on the planet. I’m so lucky to be this one’s Mommy. I tell her all the time, but if I could only choose one child in the whole universe, I would choose her – just as she is – every single time. So unbelievably blessed 💖

Back to School: “About Me” Booklet

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Last year I did an in-depth book for Lila’s teachers/therapists last year since it was her first year of pre-K (thank you for the form, Janet!). For those of you who want to do one and need a starting place, I’m pasting a clean copy of the basic contents here:

All About Me

My name is:

My friends and family call me:

This is who lives with me at home:

These are the therapists and doctors who support me and my family and how to reach them:

These are other family, friends, and supports that are special to my family and when my family or I usually see them:

Here are some things that I REALLY enjoy:

Here is how you know I’m happy:

Here are some things that are challenging for me to do:

Here are some things that I wish didn’t ever have to happen because I dislike them so much:

Here’s what I do when I’m not happy about something:

These are the ways in which I communicate to others what I’m thinking, feeling, wanting, and don’t want:

These are the ways I get around my environment and how I move and use my fingers and hands:

These are the ways I’m able to eat, and what foods I like and don’t like:

This is my experience being around other children my age and what usually happens in those settings:

This is how people who care for me let me know what behavior is expected of me and how they handle it when I’m misbehaving:

This is how I best calm down when I am upset:

These are some things that my family would like to see me learn over the next year:

This is what you can expect from my family at home when working with me:

This is what my family would like as far as communication about what I am learning and how I am doing at school:

These are my family’s hopes and dreams for me:

 

The Summer of Octopus

I’m calling it that because she starting saying “octopus” this summer – it was one of the first things she’s said where she could say it randomly and we would recognize it and respond ❤

I feel like I haven’t written anything of substance in forever. I’m always rushed from one moment to the next, never even a moment to truly relax. This Summer has been INCREDIBLE, my favorite so far. I honestly can’t believe how far Lila has come over the past year (especially the last 6 months).

She went from not being able to set foot outside, to playing outside gathering leaves/grass/flowers, jumping on the trampoline, and playing in the pool. That in and of itself is nothing short of a miracle, folks. She’s expressing herself verbally in so many more ways than she ever has previously; it’s humbling to watch. Greeting us with “Hi!”, “Hello!”, “Heeeeyyy!”, and saying “Bye!” –not just as echolalia; but actually using them in the correct context. It’s amazing. She gives us high fives! She will TRY to say almost anything at home now. She doesn’t have any anxiety about it at home around Bill and me.

Instead of intensive, clinical ABA we’ve gone the floor-time route with Lila – all sorts of floor-time/play therapies, including bits and pieces of many different models including RDI and TEACCH. Watching her continue to blossom and grow WHILE enjoying our therapeutic interactions is worth everything. She trusts us – she seeks out eye contact, wants to play, etc. She has come SO far from 15-month old Lila, who would act like we didn’t exist.

WE’VE come a very long way as well! From terrified parents of a newly diagnosed kiddo – to not only attempting  to understand her autism, but embracing it. She’s autistic, and perfectly so. If she wasn’t autistic she wouldn’t be our Lila. I’m really enjoying the time we’re in right now – because as always, things change. She starts school again in two weeks, and I can’t wait to see what’s next!

Current Positives:

  • Too Many to List
  • Her speech is continuing to get better and better, she’s definitely using her voice more than she ever has before
  • She has STOPPED needing the “First, Then” countdowns and once I start them, she will sometimes just come over, prompt me to go to “No More!”, then we just do whatever the next activity is. She’s not needing all of that time to readjust. She’s done this in the past week both with the transition to bath, and the transition to bed. Big girl!

 

Current Challenges:

  • Patience
  • Being Bossy and Throwing a Tantrum (sometimes violent) when she doesn’t get her way (I’m pretty sure that’s a typical 4-year old challenge! *high five*)
  • Public Outings still extremely difficult for the most part. Continuing to get out in public regardless.

 

Funny Story:

One of the things we’ve been working on is dinner time. She doesn’t have to sit at the table (she can if she wants) – but Mommy & Daddy have to finish eating before we can all play. “First we eat our dinner, then we can play”. She’s had a really tough time with it, but is getting better. Little Miss Smarty Pants last night: we were eating dinner, told her we were eating but could play as soon as we were finished. She comes over to me and says “diker?” (diaper). So I immediately got up to go change her. Guess who’s diaper was dry as a bone! LOL She knew that would be the one thing I would get up for – she’s an extremely smart cookie 😉

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Lila Update 6-17-16

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It’s been so crazy hectic, I feel like I haven’t updated in ages. So many things floating around in my head and for some reason it’s always so difficult to actually sit and write everything down. I’m sure I’ll miss plenty of things, but wanted to at least get SOME of what’s been going on down in writing.

PROGRESS:

So much progress… it blows my mind.

Speech:

She has started mimicking words much more often. A lot of times they’re pretty garbled, but they’re there. New words she has been trying to say (and some just saying better) include: hey, baby, dinosaur, wreck-it (ralph), hi, ready, set, go, uh-oh, oh no, go, yay, yee-haw, demi plie, and she hums/sings a lot of melodic lines where we may not be able to understand the words, but she has the melody down. It’s incredible.

Sensory Issues:

She is still going outside! And not only that, she’s been playing in a kiddie pool for the first time ever, and wearing a swim suit for the first time in a couple of years! She even gets on the trampoline while the sprinkler is nearby. We’re about a million miles away from earlier this year when she wouldn’t even let us put her down outside.

Discipline/Understanding:

The first behavioral issue we decided to tackle was moving people. Janet came over and talked us through it while Lila kept trying to move Janet and I as we were sitting on the floor. We came up with a social story, supporting visuals, etc to help her with this….. but the crazy thing is…..she didn’t need any of it. After that incident where we clearly and concisely told her: “People get to choose where they sit. You can choose where you sit, but you cannot choose where other people sit” – she hasn’t tried it since. Definitely a reminder to always presume competence!

CHALLENGES:

Behavior & Sensory:

As much progress as we have, there are always many challenges – and I will try to line some of that out here. I never post pics, video, etc of these issues because I feel it’s disrespectful to her to do so.

The biggest challenge lately has been LOTS of behavioral issues – impatience, wanting to move us and others around like chess pieces, becoming increasingly controlling of her environment at home. Examples: we’re not “allowed” to take showers, dry hair, go to the bathroom, vacuum, read a magazine, and sometimes sit in certain places. She is really not liking the cats being around, either. The great news about this – see above in Progress 🙂

She has also regressed in regard to going out in public. Public outings have now become extremely difficult again – will start again in that area and hopefully baby-step our way back to where we were.

We’ve very recently changed up Lila’s daycare as well – moved from her in-home daycare to a nanny at the house (we can’t really afford it, but it’s the very best option for her right now so we’ll find a way to make it work). She also starts ESY next week – can’t wait to see what the rest of the Summer holds!